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Question your shirts, one word that often shows up in our anger inducing thoughts is, should this

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shouldn't be so hard, they should treat me better.

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These drivers should go faster.

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These should generally reflect an error and thinking for why we might prefer a certain outcome.

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There is no actual rule that's been violated.

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Chinking our sense of violation can diminish.

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And Mr. City anger.

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Talk yourself down.

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Practice talking to yourself the way you would.

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A friend who's upset come up with words or phrases that encourage you to calm down when you're starting

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to wind up.

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Examples include take it easy, be cool, breathe through this.

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No need to get bent out of shape.

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Notice when you're feeding anger related thoughts, we can fuel our own anger even without any ongoing

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stimulus by mentally going over things that upset us or ruminating on our anger.

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And this way can include imagined conversations that we find upsetting, even getting mad about made

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up interactions.

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Mindfulness practices are well suited to help redirect stimulation.

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Remember your larger goal?

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Anger narrows our focus onto the target of our anger, which can crowd out our bigger goals.

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For example, we might lose sight of the relationship.

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We are trying to deal with our kids when we are frustrated with them, right down the ways in which

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anger has interfered with your goals.

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When you feel anger rising, remind yourself of the things that are important to.